I am obviously beyond hiding my pregnancy. In my job at campus rec I interact with many different people every day. The questions are flooding in. Here are the questions I get and how I handle them:
“I didn’t know you were pregnant, when are you due?” – If I do not know the people well and will probably not bump into them again I lie and say late June. If they are people I interact with regularly I will usually tell them mid-August. If anyone knows anything about pregnancy this is usually followed by weird looks since I look closer to 5-6 months along. Therefore, I usually let them know I am expecting triplets this is followed by either
“What, oh my gosh!” – These people’s mouths always hang open afterward. They are usually the very uninhibited folks.
“Wow, triplets?” – These people often stare into space afterward looking very confused. It hasn’t registered with them yet. I always give them a few more minutes to digest the info. They are the shy, reserved folks.
“Congratulations. Go Max! He has some good swimmers!” These people just have a huge smile on their face afterwards. They are usually the outgoing, fun folks. Of course, I let Max take the glory for this (Secretly I know I am the one that produced 3 eggs
Then is the inevitable question, “Are they natural, do twins run in your family?”
To this I will tell general acquaintances that twins do not run in my family that I know of, it was not IVF and this was a complete shock! If I know the people well, I have no problem telling them I did not ovulate and took Clomid to help me ovulate. A lot of people are familiar with drug or know someone who used it and they are still surprised it resulted in triplets. Many people out there have struggled with infertility or know someone who has so they will often share their own stories. Like all women, those that use fertility drugs; whether it be Clomid, injectables, or IVF, to concieve are very proud of their pregnancies and don’t feel the need to hide their struggles and success. I know I will be asked about my triplets for years to come so I welcome the questions and conversation.